The Girl in Gucci Glasses

Dating in an era of social media can be tough. But let’s break down dating, breaking up, and moving on.

Never feel ashamed for loving too much

• There might be all of these trends on TikTok and amongst the younger generations about “staying toxic” and learning to feel less, but don’t buy into that bullshit. At the end of the day, we are all human and want to love and be loved. You should never feel bad for loving the wrong person. For you, it’s a lesson and a point of growth. For them, it’s a mistake they may never even realize they made until it’s too late. Now if you consistently love all of the wrong people, then I’d say a quick therapy sesh should help you discover why that is. And you will ultimately be stronger for it, and make better choices.

Hooking up is a temporary fix

• You know that saying? Yeah, you know the one. I’m talking about “the best way to get over someone, is by getting under someone new.” Well, that is a lie. The truth is, that was probably a sentiment created by a horny dude looking to take advantage of a woman tangled up in her emotions. Okay, who knows. But you know what I do know? If you want to have casual sex, go for it. But wait until after you’ve healed from your breakup. Jumping from strangers’ beds to prove a point or help you forget someone is going to do the complete opposite.

Don’t send that paragraph

• Someone who wronged you probably knows where they dropped the ball. And here’s the real secret: they probably don’t care. I know, shocker. Don’t waste time giving these types of folks any more of your time. Instead, if you must send that long paragraph, write it down. And then burn it.

Delete, block, but never stalk

• Regardless of who dumped who, let’s just not stalk people who are out of our lives. This is especially true if this person made the choice to not only leave you but stay away. Seeing what they’re up to is slowing down your healing process, and just not passing the vibe check. I promise that things truly end for good reason. The people who don’t see your worth and love you the way you deserve are the real losers here. Let’s move onward and upwards.

Healing is tough sometimes, and it’s never linear. What works for one, won’t always work for the rest. And that’s okay! Just keep taking things one day at a time. Because I promise, even if it doesn’t feel like it, one day you will wake up and be completely over the situation. The only pain you were meant to experience in this life was champagne.