Love and light my ass. Sometimes you’re just wrong and don’t want to admit it.

There’s a new breed of self-proclaimed enlightened folks out here acting like they’re Buddha’s PR team, but if I can be extremely honest for a moment: a crystal collection and a sage stick don’t make you emotionally evolved. Spirituality isn’t a get-out-of-accountability-free card, and yet way too many people are hiding behind it like it’s a golden aura that makes their toxic behavior untouchable.

Being “spiritual” doesn’t mean you’re right.
And “high vibes only” doesn’t mean you get to be a dismissive asshole in a flowy linen shirt.

When “Healing” Is Just Rebranding Avoidance

Somewhere along the path from shadow work to desert retreats, a lot of people decided they were above reproach. Suddenly, every time someone called out their behavior, the response was:
“I’m protecting my peace.”
“I’ve outgrown this energy.”
“You’re just projecting.”

Besties. You’re not protecting your peace, you’re just dodging hard conversations.
It’s not “misaligned energy,” when it’s just downright immature.
You’re not transcending. You’re just avoiding.

“Boundaries” Aren’t Shields for Bad Behavior

Setting boundaries is healthy.
Weaponizing them to avoid accountability? That’s cowardly.

There’s a difference between saying “I need space to heal” and “I don’t want to admit I hurt you, so I’m going to gaslight you with a vague quote I found on a Pinterest account from 2014.”

It’s become trendy to slap a spiritual label on emotional immaturity.
You’re not mysterious or evolved, you’re just emotionally unavailable with way too much access to incense.

Accountability Is the Real Spiritual Practice

The most evolved people aren’t the loudest ones in the room telling you how evolved they are. They’re the ones who say:

• “You’re right. I hurt you. I’m sorry.”
• “That wasn’t okay. I’ll do better.”
• “Thank you for showing me my blind spot.”

That’s what actual, tangible growth sounds like.
Not “I don’t receive that energy.”
Not “My intuition told me to cut you off without explanation.”
And definitely not “Your frequency is messing with my alignment.” Sit down.

Love and Light Ain’t Shit Without a Slice of Humble Pie

If your version of “light” only exists when things are comfortable, you’re not actually spiritual, you’re just vibing in a controlled environment. The real work? It happens when someone checks you. When your ego is bruised. When you have to ask: Was I the problem? (Spoiler: sometimes, yes.)

Love and light are powerful. But they lose meaning when used as armor.
Because real love owns up.
And real light shines on your mess, too.

Smudge Your Room, Not Your Responsibilities

Grow your crystals. Burn your sage. Charge your moon water. Whatever. But for the love of self-awareness, don’t use spirituality as a way to stay emotionally stunted and socially selfish.

Sometimes you’re not “protecting your peace.”
Sometimes you’re just full of shit and don’t want to admit it.

And that’s okay. You’re human. But don’t confuse hiding behind healing with actual healing.