Well guys, per usual spooky season never lasts long.
As we welcome a new month, I want to challenge you to something: say “no.”
Say “no” this November
As a former “yes girl,” I realize this might seem like poor advice, but hear me out.
Saying “no” is a form of self care.
When we are constantly say “yes,” we not only lose a piece of our identity, but we are on the fast track to burnout.
Boundary setting is ideal as it teaches people to respect not only you, but your time.
Life is about balance. The moment you start to take on more responsibilities than you can handle, or start saying “yes” to people you’re not vibing with…you stop having self-respect.
Sounds harsh, but it’s true.
Practice saying “no.”
Whether you’re not interested in someone that asked you out, or you don’t think your coworker’s idea is great — articulate yourself.
And if it’s in a work setting, be prepared to say why you feel that way.
Don’t beat around the bush, okay?
Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Stand up for yourself.
We all could do a little better in that regard. Some more than others.
You are not rude for having boundaries.
As a former nice girl, I get it. Saying “no” can be uncomfortable but that just means you need to practice saying it more!
Once upon a time, I felt guilty if I said “no,” even to social invites. Because if something was “fun,” I told myself I needed to partake. But something a therapist taught me was to make a calendar invite for days when I needed to clock out.
Let’s say I’ve had an intense work week, then I’m going to make a calendar invite for Saturday. This means I’m not going out with friends. I’m going to chill and recharge.
Remember: you can’t be there for others if you’re not there for yourself first.