Are you tired of trying to be the “cool girl” in order to win over a man’s heart? Sure, it might seem like the perfect approach to get a guy to like you, but guess what? It’s simply not beneficial, and here’s why.

First and foremost, let’s get one thing straight – being the “cool girl” means being someone you’re not. You’re putting on a front to make someone else happy, which is simply not sustainable. It’s tiring and ultimately not worth it in the long run. Plus, if a man (or anyone, tbh) can’t appreciate you for who you truly are, then they are simply not worth your time.

Being the “cool girl” often comes at the expense of your own wants and needs. You might find yourself sacrificing your own preferences to accommodate someone else’s. This could mean pretending to like something you don’t, or agreeing to things you don’t really want to do. All in the name of being the “cool girl.” The girl who goes with the flow, even when she doesn’t want to. The girl who quietly sits by and dims her light.

But babe, come on…why should you compromise your own happiness for someone else’s? That’s just not fair.

When you’re the “cool girl” it leads to a lack of respect from others. By putting someone else’s needs before your own, you’re essentially giving them permission to walk all over you. This can lead to feelings of resentment and a lack of self-esteem. Trust me, you don’t want to be in a situation where you are constantly second-guessing yourself and your worth. The only thing worse than being gaslit by others, is being gaslit by yourself.

Yikes.

Being the “cool girl” might work for a little while, but you can only pretend for so long. If you’re not being true to yourself, then eventually, the facade will fall apart, and you risk losing the person you’re trying so hard to impress. Although maybe that’s not such a bad thing, as anyone you’re meant to be with, won’t require such theatrics.

Ladies, it’s time to stop trying to be the “cool girl” and start being ourselves. Embrace who you are, love yourself, and the right person will appreciate and love you for exactly who you are. It’s cliche. It’s corny. But it’s true. Don’t compromise your own wants and needs for someone else. You deserve to be happy and respected, and being true to yourself is the first step in achieving that.

Because at the end of the day, that’s what truly matters.