At some point in life, everyone hits a low point where their confidence gets cracked wide open.

Sometimes it’s slow. Sometimes it’s sudden. And most of the time, it’s because of another person.

A romantic partner who slowly tears you down.

A family member whose words linger longer than they should.

A colleague, teacher, or friend who makes you question yourself.

And honestly, sometimes it’s a mix of all of them.

I was talking to my mom about this recently after realizing one of my siblings went through a brief dark period. A season where their confidence dimmed after dating someone truly vile and degrading. The kind of person who chips away at you little by little until you start seeing yourself through their broken lens.

And it hit me. Almost all of us will experience this at least once in our lives. Being too close to someone who creates insecurity. Someone who loves dysfunction. Someone who feels threatened by our light.

The Dangerous Thing About Insecure People

Insecure people are dangerous. And they’re loud.

They don’t like seeing people happy. They don’t like seeing people thriving. They don’t like seeing people confident, grounded, or at peace. Because when you shine, it forces them to look at what they refuse to heal in themselves.

So instead, they project. They criticize. They try to “humble” you. They mask disrespect as jokes, concern, or tough love. And if you stay around long enough, you just might start believing them.

That’s where the real damage happens.

Many people are deeply disturbed and want company in their misery. They want to pull others down so they don’t have to sit alone with themselves. And you can’t let this happen.

If You’re in a Funk, That’s Human

If your confidence has ever taken a hit, hear this clearly:

There’s nothing wrong with you. There never was.

Losing your footing for a moment doesn’t erase your worth. Feeling unsure doesn’t cancel out your gifts. Entering a low season doesn’t mean you live there now.

It’s okay to fall into a funk. That’s part of being human. What matters is that you don’t stay there.

You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to grieve who you were before someone dimmed your light.
But you’re not allowed to forget who you are.

In Case You Forgot

You are great.
You are loved.
You are talented.
You belong.

And anyone who tries to shrink you, humble you, or break your spirit isn’t worth knowing or remembering. Their opinion doesn’t deserve any more of your energy.

You weren’t placed on this planet to be put down.

You were placed here because you bring something no one else can. Something rare. Something real. Something needed.

You’re good on the inside.
You’re good on the outside.
And you carry a remarkable gift.

There isn’t another you. Not even close.

Take Your Power Back

Confidence isn’t loud arrogance. It’s this quiet knowing. It’s remembering yourself after the world tries to make you forget.

So if someone made you question your worth, let this be the moment you take it back.

Stand up slowly if you have to.
Rebuild gently if you need to.
But don’t stay small for people who only feel big when others feel less.

You’re not here to be broken.
You’re here to become.

And no insecure, bitter, or damaged person gets to decide otherwise.

Got it?

Okay, good.