You block them everywhere. Text, social media, even Venmo. You think that’s it. Done. But somehow, they find a way to show up. They’ll reach out when they need something, when they’re bored, lonely, or horny. They want attention. They want a reaction.

Don’t answer. Don’t explain. Don’t try to have the last word to say how you’ve moved on — that only shows the exact opposite. Block them. Ignore them. Don’t backtrack. Doors close for a reason. They haven’t changed. They likely won’t change.

I know this because I just heard from an ex after years of silence. The same person who cheated and ran straight to the person they cheated on me with. No apology. No explanation. And honestly, I didn’t need one. Their prior disrespect said everything I needed to know, so why would I waste time replying or “hearing them out?”

If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it probably has untreated chlamydia.

Closure isn’t something exes give you. You don’t need them to validate your feelings. You don’t need them to fix it. Their behavior told you everything you needed to know.

We’re trained to think closure comes from the person that hurts us. That if they say the right thing or apologize, we’ll finally be free. That’s the biggest lie. Toxic people rarely give what you need. Walking away, ignoring them, and staying out of their world of delusions, is the only way to actually move on.

If (more like when) they try to creep back in, here’s the deal. You’re not obligated to answer. You’re not obligated to explain. You’re not obligated to forgive. Every word you send gives them power and drags you back in.

Ignoring them works because it takes the power away from them. They live on attention, drama, and control. Responding even once feeds that. You don’t owe them anything. And by replying, you’re showing that you’re open to reconciliation, and maybe even like the drama.

How to Really Move On From a Toxic Ex

1. Block and stay blocked:
   • Texts, social media, email, Venmo. If you’re serious, then no exceptions.
2. Don’t respond:
   • Even one reply pulls you back in.
3. Erase reminders:
   • Photos, old messages, anything that drags you into the past.
4. Remember why it ended:
   • Their actions show you made the right call. If you’re feeling like a dumb bitch that might get amnesia, write it down and tape it to the fridge.
5. Focus on your life:
   • Friends, work, hobbies, money, travel. Build a life that’s yours and ultimately, you’ll forget about them again.

Moving on isn’t about pretending they never existed. It isn’t about waiting for them to apologize or begging for closure that will never come. Moving on is about refusing to let their chaos control your life.

They’ll always reach out. They’ll always try. Don’t give in. Don’t even peek. Doors close for a reason. They haven’t changed. But you have.

You’re not running from them. You’re running toward yourself. Your time, your energy, your peace. That’s where the power is. That’s where the freedom is. That’s where you really win.