I’m not great at updating this blog. Honestly, sometimes life feels like a dumpster fire and I barely keep up with myself. But today I want to slide into your feed with a reminder: you’re doing better than you think.

Most of us overthink everything. Every choice, every feeling, every word we say, every move we hesitate on. We treat life like it’s a math problem that can be solved if we just plan, analyze, and think hard enough. It can’t. It won’t. Life doesn’t work that way.

You Figure It Out by Living

Life works by doing, by screwing up, by failing, by winning, by testing yourself and realizing you ignored advice that actually mattered. Growth doesn’t come from overthinking. Growth comes from showing up, messing up, getting up, and showing up again.

Sometimes you won’t know what to do. Sometimes the next step is invisible. Sometimes the right answer shows up after you’ve already walked past it. That is normal. That is life. That is how you get better.

Control Is a Lie

Here’s the truth. None of us are in control. Planning is useful, but it isn’t magic. Life will hit you with curveballs. It will derail your neat little spreadsheet. You will stare at a wall wondering how you got here. That is not failure. That is real life.

You can’t control everything, but you can control one thing. You can act. You can make choices. You can stop negotiating with your fear. You can stop asking for permission.

Stop Listening to Everyone Else

Overthinking is often just listening to the wrong voices. Advice, opinions, social media, what everyone else thinks. It drowns out your instincts. You’ve survived chaos before. Trust yourself. Even if it’s messy. Even if it’s inconvenient. You already know how to survive uncertainty.

Mistakes Are Your Superpower

The things you call failures—mess-ups, wrong turns, embarrassing moments—those are the teachers no podcast or book can replace. Every mistake teaches you what you want, what you don’t, and who you are. Overthinking will never do that. Only action will.

So mess up. Say the wrong thing. Take the scary move. Fail spectacularly. Cry. Laugh. Get up and do it again. That is how you build courage. That is how you stop being stuck in your head.

Not Knowing Everything Is Freedom

Not having all the answers is not chaos. It’s freedom. Freedom to act without being paralyzed by perfection. Freedom to experience life fully, messy and raw. You don’t need to figure it all out. You don’t need your life to make sense on a timeline that isn’t yours. You don’t need anyone’s permission to start over.

All you need is the guts to move. The guts to act. The guts to trust yourself. Clarity follows action, not the other way around.

Quit overthinking. Quit waiting for perfect timing. Stop negotiating with fear. Start living.

It will be messy. It will be imperfect. It will be yours. And that is enough.