moving on
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In My Thirties I Stopped Asking “Why” (And Just Maybe I Broke the Cycle)
I used to think if I understood why someone hurt me, I’d feel better. That was my whole approach to relationships, especially the messy ones. I’d replay conversations, analyze tone, reread texts, try to connect emotional dots that probably weren’t even there. If we are being honest, I’d even drive a few of my close… Continue reading
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Why You Don’t Need the Last Word With a Toxic Ex
I recently got a text, voicemail, and an email from a toxic ex. New numbers, new accounts, the usual circle back move that happens when you’re no longer available. In the past, I would’ve drafted a long message. Something that laid out every slight, every boundary they ignored, every way I grew since we broke… Continue reading
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Growing Up Means Some People Will Never See the New You
Here’s the crazy truth no one really tells you as you grow up: some people will never see you for who you are now. You can change your job, your friends, your style, and they’ll still treat you like the person you were three, five, even ten years ago. Not because you’re pretending. Because they… Continue reading
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Why Your Ex Texts You During the Holidays (And Why It’s Probably Not About Love)
Holidays are kinda unhinged. One minute you’re balls-deep in mashed potatoes. The next, your phone lights up with a casual “hey stranger” from your ex. Immediate spiral. Why now?What do they want?Is this a sign?Are they lonely? Or are they just trying to bang?Should I respond? Before you go any further. Know this: most of… Continue reading